Stress Free Weddings- The Smart Bride's Guide to Destressing While Planning Your Wedding

Every girl dreams of having the perfect wedding. From childhood we are bombarded with images of perfection in glamorous celebrity weddings whose unlimited budgets are reflected in the designer gowns, lavish jewelry, tremendous guest counts, and a sumptuous buffet. Take Lady Diana Spencer's wedding to the Prince of Wales in 1981. During the so-called wedding of the century, she wore a designer dress with a long train that cascaded down the aisle of Westminster Abbey. It seemed to us like a fairy tale come true- a princess has finally found her prince. The wedding of Prince William and Catherine Middleton in April 2011 rivaled any story book wedding the world has ever seen, and with another royal wedding in the making, there is much speculation about the grandeur to come.

And so from these images we begin building our own vision of the perfect wedding. Whether large or small, we visualize every detail of this fantastic event, from the exact shade of white for the gown to the particular flavor of cake we want for the dessert course. For some women, the need to make everything about the day perfect has turned many a lovely bride into the dreaded Bridezilla. What fuels the rage of Bridezilla?  Stress.

Planning a wedding, especially large ones, can be difficult. Many brides also have to contend with meddling family members, budget constraints and time pressure along with the usual demands of daily life such as a job or children. For some, the stress manifests in psychological or physical ways. A stressed bride can be susceptible to mood swings, hysteria and irrational behavior which begins to affect the other parts of her life. But it is possible to have a stress-free wedding. by following these tips:

Stop obsessing over the little details. In their quest to plan the perfect wedding, many brides forget that it’s the ceremony itself that's important, not the trimmings. There's no need to get into debt to create the perfect wedding. Spend your money where it counts. Money is one of the most powerful stress triggers, but careful spending will go a long way in easing your worries. Remember that some things in life really are free.

Compromise. Remember that you can't do it alone and that you don't have the monopoly on good ideas. Be open for suggestions. Ask your groom if he has any special requests that can be incorporated to the ceremony. Trust the experts your hire. Chances are this isn’t their wedding and they will be able to make good recommendations.

Delegate. Set expectations with your Wedding Planner so you’ll know what tasks they will handle. If you have family members that want to be involved, try setting a specific task to each family members and the bridal party and let them know that you appreciate their help. Deal with these people firmly and with diplomacy and make sure that they understand that you and your groom have the final say in all matters pertaining to the wedding. 

Get organized. It pays to do a little research before purchasing a service or item for the wedding. Try attending a Bridal Show or similar events for more inspiration. Keep a notebook and calendar for matters pertaining to the wedding, detailing what has been done and what else needs to be done.

Take time off from the wedding frenzy. Go away for the weekend with your groom, or treat your self to a spa date with your friends. Do what helps you to relax and during that time, avoid discussing or even thinking of your wedding plans. Stepping back helps you regain a new perspective on the matter and lessens your level of stress.

Let it go. There are just some things we can't control, like the weather. Focus on what you can control, and maintain a sense of humor. Laughing greatly increases your body's release of endorphins, engendering a sense of wellbeing and decreasing stress levels.

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